"I don't know... I don't know if some have found you to be a bit much. But here's the thing... you need to embrace the fact that people are all different with different expectations, desires, wants...For example when I was in school, one of my good friends was captain of the dueling club. He was very macho. Talked of being an auror, or something exciting like that. The girls use to love it. Ate it right up. I remember a girl in our group of friends asking me why I wasn't in the dueling club and why I didn't get better at fighting in general? I made some sort of dismissive comment asking "why I would want to do that? If I was known as a good fighter every fool who thought he or she was good with a wand would be hunting me down at the school and disturbing my peace." I said it to be funny, but I could see a look of disappointment on her face. Soon after I noticed the light flirtatious banter that had been going on between us... had dropped. I guess I wasn't manly enough for her or something. But funny thing about that? When I say similar things to women now they see it as a sign of maturity. they aren't looking for someone looking to go get his head blown off to prove a point." he shrugged and added, "Then again, some still are. But I am content with the ones that get me. And it's going to be the same for you Andi. Maybe you don't realize this but... there is a constant joke among women that "All the most attractive guys turn out to be gay." I have even heard it joked among men that it's a good thing all the gay guys aren't interested in women or the rest of us wouldn't have a chance. Point being... a lot of women actually like a lot of the stereo typical qualities associated with gay men. The fact they put more thought into how they dress, better conversationalists, etc. Some times as women mature a bit they start to get tired of the overly aggressive, macho man. and they find a kind hearted, friendly, funny guy like yourself a breath of fresh air."